Comments on: De-Nesting http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/ So, kids are mostly raised & I've just gone back to work... Tue, 03 May 2011 14:46:12 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Almostgotit.com | Conclusion of several stories http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1760 Almostgotit.com | Conclusion of several stories Mon, 08 Sep 2008 17:02:54 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1760 [...] New College Student, too busy lately even to trim his own toenails apparently,  came home and spent virtually all of [...] [...] New College Student, too busy lately even to trim his own toenails apparently,  came home and spent virtually all of [...]

]]> By: almostgotit http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1562 almostgotit Fri, 15 Aug 2008 22:37:56 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1562 <em>Thank him for me, Deb! I have *no* idea, True! But it is the weirdest thing ever. Right up there with having the wriggling, naked little things come into being in the first place. Jim -- Hmm, Ultimate Anonymity, eh? But yep, you gotta come out sometime. </em> Thank him for me, Deb!

I have *no* idea, True! But it is the weirdest thing ever. Right up there with having the wriggling, naked little things come into being in the first place.

Jim — Hmm, Ultimate Anonymity, eh? But yep, you gotta come out sometime.

]]> By: Jim McDish http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1561 Jim McDish Fri, 15 Aug 2008 22:29:16 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1561 OMG people must we de-nest? I dont want to go!! Whah! JT www.Ultimate-Anonymity.com OMG people must we de-nest? I dont want to go!! Whah!

JT
http://www.Ultimate-Anonymity.com

]]> By: truevyne http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1557 truevyne Thu, 14 Aug 2008 21:51:03 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1557 My gut hurts for ya! How DOES this happen?? My gut hurts for ya! How DOES this happen??

]]> By: A Little Tea or Something http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1553 A Little Tea or Something Thu, 14 Aug 2008 12:37:39 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1553 Postscript: 15-year-old says he will gladly act as occasional surrogate and requires only food and television. (On reading that sentence, I realized that the "food" component sounds so very innocuous, and yet you know what that means for an adolescent male: protein in unthinkable quantities, with butterfat--lots of it--thrown in for good measure.) Postscript: 15-year-old says he will gladly act as occasional surrogate and requires only food and television. (On reading that sentence, I realized that the “food” component sounds so very innocuous, and yet you know what that means for an adolescent male: protein in unthinkable quantities, with butterfat–lots of it–thrown in for good measure.)

]]> By: almostgotit http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1552 almostgotit Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:45:13 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1552 <em>Thank you all! He leaves tomorrow, and today I've been going around feeling like I have the 'flu. "This is NORMAL," I keep reminding myself. @ James: I love your sense of humor. Don't stop sharing it with me! @ Working Girl: And if you do, I'll buy *you* a toilet brush. (notice how I just started my sentence with a conjunction there?) @Deb: I'd love to borrow your son. I'll let you know when I'm having a particularly bad day of missing "grotty" @ Kathy: your son's apartment story reminded me of my mother, who two times now has arrived at my house and helpfully chopped off my favorite houseplant. I think we probably NEVER let go. @ Ann: It's good to be honest with our children, especially when we need to be selfish! You do understand. And you'll have to let me know how it is different with daughters (they probably pick out their OWN shower caddies, right?) </em> Thank you all! He leaves tomorrow, and today I’ve been going around feeling like I have the ‘flu. “This is NORMAL,” I keep reminding myself.

@ James: I love your sense of humor. Don’t stop sharing it with me!

@ Working Girl: And if you do, I’ll buy *you* a toilet brush. (notice how I just started my sentence with a conjunction there?)

@Deb: I’d love to borrow your son. I’ll let you know when I’m having a particularly bad day of missing “grotty”

@ Kathy: your son’s apartment story reminded me of my mother, who two times now has arrived at my house and helpfully chopped off my favorite houseplant. I think we probably NEVER let go.

@ Ann: It’s good to be honest with our children, especially when we need to be selfish! You do understand. And you’ll have to let me know how it is different with daughters (they probably pick out their OWN shower caddies, right?)

]]> By: Ann Bares http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1551 Ann Bares Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:06:19 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1551 Almost: Oh these big life-shaking transitions that never hit anyone else as hard as they hit mothers... My son left for college three years ago (he goes back next week for Senior year). Daughter leaves in early September, making me an empty nester. It works this way: you buy for them and do for them what you have to so that YOU can survive. Because they will be just fine. It's you whose heart will be bleeding. Like I say to my son as we start packing him up for impending departure: "Just let me do these things. This is about me." He just smiles and rubs my back. "I know, Mom." Best wishes! Almost:

Oh these big life-shaking transitions that never hit anyone else as hard as they hit mothers…

My son left for college three years ago (he goes back next week for Senior year). Daughter leaves in early September, making me an empty nester.

It works this way: you buy for them and do for them what you have to so that YOU can survive. Because they will be just fine. It’s you whose heart will be bleeding.

Like I say to my son as we start packing him up for impending departure: “Just let me do these things. This is about me.” He just smiles and rubs my back. “I know, Mom.”

Best wishes!

]]> By: Kathy M. http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1550 Kathy M. Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:01:30 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1550 Oh oh oh. I laughed when I read of your shopping trip--"just a few things he might need"--because I did EXACTLY the same thing for both sons. I remember in particular that I solemnly choose a small bottle of dish detergent to wash up the dishes that I bought for son A. As I recall, the dish detergent bottle was full right up to the top when we packed his room to bring him home in April. I was a little embarrassed that I had forgotten how college students live, including girls, and it involves little if any housework of the dishwashing sort. I quietly moved the bottle from his belongings to my kitchen. Just wait (don't you hate it when the older, not necessarily wiser, person says that? Me too) until you help him get settled in a new apartment. I, along with a friend with a talent for home decoration, spent a day jazzing up son P's apartment while he was at work. I imagined his delight when he saw how we'd made the apartment homier, less empty or lonely (as, to my eyes, it was). What I got was a furious son for my interfering ways. He LIKED an apartment with album covers on the wall. BUTT OUT. Oh yes. It's VERY hard letting go... Oh oh oh. I laughed when I read of your shopping trip–”just a few things he might need”–because I did EXACTLY the same thing for both sons. I remember in particular that I solemnly choose a small bottle of dish detergent to wash up the dishes that I bought for son A. As I recall, the dish detergent bottle was full right up to the top when we packed his room to bring him home in April. I was a little embarrassed that I had forgotten how college students live, including girls, and it involves little if any housework of the dishwashing sort. I quietly moved the bottle from his belongings to my kitchen.

Just wait (don’t you hate it when the older, not necessarily wiser, person says that? Me too) until you help him get settled in a new apartment. I, along with a friend with a talent for home decoration, spent a day jazzing up son P’s apartment while he was at work. I imagined his delight when he saw how we’d made the apartment homier, less empty or lonely (as, to my eyes, it was). What I got was a furious son for my interfering ways. He LIKED an apartment with album covers on the wall. BUTT OUT.

Oh yes. It’s VERY hard letting go…

]]> By: A Little Tea or Something http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1549 A Little Tea or Something Wed, 13 Aug 2008 22:49:38 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1549 The word "grotty" surfaced again and again just a while ago (a great word, by the way...right up there with huffling), as I was de-grotting my 15-year-old's bathroom while he was in the next room playing video games (I know, I know..What's wrong with this picture?). I will loan him to you occasionally over the course of the next four years, if you wish. He was shocked recently when I told him he'd be moving out about then. (His response: whaaa???) Yep, I said, you're starting high school in just a couple of weeks--four years of that, and then you're on your way in the world. I'm not starting high school, he insisted, I'm starting NINTH GRADE. I tried to swallow my giggles. Truth is? I dread that day four years from now, and my heart aches for you. Have fun baking those cookies. The word “grotty” surfaced again and again just a while ago (a great word, by the way…right up there with huffling), as I was de-grotting my 15-year-old’s bathroom while he was in the next room playing video games (I know, I know..What’s wrong with this picture?). I will loan him to you occasionally over the course of the next four years, if you wish. He was shocked recently when I told him he’d be moving out about then. (His response: whaaa???) Yep, I said, you’re starting high school in just a couple of weeks–four years of that, and then you’re on your way in the world. I’m not starting high school, he insisted, I’m starting NINTH GRADE. I tried to swallow my giggles. Truth is? I dread that day four years from now, and my heart aches for you. Have fun baking those cookies.

]]> By: Working Girl http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/comment-page-1/#comment-1548 Working Girl Wed, 13 Aug 2008 18:36:05 +0000 http://www.almostgotit.com/2008/08/12/de-nesting/#comment-1548 Hang in there, Almostgotit! Sounds like that retail therapy was tremendously helpful...... .....and kind of makes me want to go off to college myself! Anyway, no, you are not acting like an idiot. It's hard to let go. Just remember that whatever happens, he'll always be your little boy (someday he'll appreciate this more). Hang in there, Almostgotit! Sounds like that retail therapy was tremendously helpful……

…..and kind of makes me want to go off to college myself!

Anyway, no, you are not acting like an idiot. It’s hard to let go. Just remember that whatever happens, he’ll always be your little boy (someday he’ll appreciate this more).

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