Change is hard work
Change Is Hard Work; it requires hope, direction, bravery and time. -Thomas Moore
The sign at left is a standard one in Great Britain, and was one of our favorites. While it merely means “adjusted right-of-way ahead,” I always had the strong sense that Stephen Covey was speaking to us directly from the heavens. Other signs we loved were “Caution: Rising Bollards!” (which sounds like a variety of aggressive ostrich but in fact refers to adjustable traffic barriers) and various humorous — and at times salacious – notices about “zebra crossings” (which are crosswalks with painted lines. Get it?)
When we lived in England, we were frequently amazed and amused at how different our two languages were. Pantyhose don’t “run” in Britain, they “ladder.” Sinister-sounding ”schemes” merely refer to ”plans.” Our children’s classmates patiently explained to us that a “pavement” is not a material but a sidewalk. (though they also knew what “sidewalks” were from watching American telly.) ”Corn” is a generic term for grain, while “lumber” is the rubbish you store in your attic.
Moreover? It is not nice to mention your pants (underwear) in public, but perfectly acceptable to announce that you need the toilet (bathroom).
That last, in particular, was a particular challenge for us as embarrassed Americans, even when we understood that a willingness to ask perfect strangers to please point out the nearest toilet was not only necessary, but completely ordinary to everyone but ourselves.
In other words: change was hard, but we had to get over it or else pee in our, er, trousers. Sigh. (Life is so brutal sometimes.)
So maybe my current life stage is not so very different from learning to use a new language, nor even so very different from potty training. What do we tell our children when they are learning such a life-changing skill? You need to think ahead. You need to pay attention to yourself. Sometimes, there will be accidents, but keep trying and eventually you will succeed.
Since our “mums” aren’t here to tell us these things anymore, maybe posting signs for ourselves now and then would actually be a good idea. Post-it notes on the bathroom mirror or on the computer monitor or in a daytimer? Or maybe posting signs for the REST of the family would be in order, too. What would your signs say?
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Creative Commons images by
Christine(bpc) (Changed Priorities); Andrewb47 (Rising Bollards); SeanMcTex (Humped Zebra Crossing); Ceejayoz (Princess Parking)
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